It’s Ja Ja Ja JERSEDAY!!!!! This week a Priest tells Snooki to cover up her ta ta’s and I cannot wait!!
You’ll all be happy to hear that I made my first responsible adult romantic decision Tuesday night while I was out for drinks with Texas. I saw a red flag and called him on it.
The evening kicked off about 9pm at a bar between our two places. Anth dropped me off and on our way there we discussed what Texas and I were going to talk about since it was just going to be the two of us. I knew there would be the typical what have you been up to for the past year convo but I really didn’t know where the conversation would lead. I really wanted to find out for sure if he still had the girlfriend so that was at the top of the agenda.
We got the typical work talk out of the way pretty quickly, I told him about my job and all of the old people I work with and he told me he’s been running a ski lodge in Colorado for the past year, and living at the lodge so that he could ski everyday. That was a yellow flag. My thoughts coming into this were wondering if he had become an “adult” since we graduated from college a year ago, and him telling me this little tid bit of info told me no he hadn’t grown up at all and was probably still a big partier. He was quick to mention the “EX-girlfriend” so that I knew he was single and ready to mingle.
The conversation turned to music and he asked me if I liked electronic music, I made a face and grunted “NO!” and he took it upon himself to try and change my mind. Telling me I had to come to a concert with him and I had to do X so that I enjoyed it. At first I laughed it off and just said, “Uh yeah that’ll happen.” But he was persistent, telling me how it makes you feel and blah blah blah. All stuff I had heard before when Snoop-Linus did that shit every weekend. Then after he was done with his sales pitch he asked, “So do you want to do it?” I looked at him like he was an idiot and said “Um NO! I am 26 years old, peer pressuring me isn’t going to work. I have no desire to do that stuff. And aren’t you afraid it’s going to mess up your brain?” He came back with some unconvincing spiel about how he only does it a few times a year when he goes to a concert or something so it’s not like he does it every weekend. Eventually I asked if we could just change the subject. He knows Snoop-Linus and already knows a lot of what I went through with that so at that point I was pretty much over the drug talk. And at that point I held up my hand and said, “THIS! This is what we like to call a red flag. Don’t try and date me or anything ok? I’m not going to date another guy who does drugs, so just don’t even try it.”
Anth and Lucky both got a good chuckle out of that. I mean yeah it’s the first time we’ve talked in a year and I’m already turning him down before he even made a move. I knew saying that wouldn’t turn him away though, but I just had to say it because really… I’m not going to date another guy who does that shit, not even casually.
Lucky and I talked about this today, and discussed how 2 years ago I would’ve been swept off my feet after last night and ignored the major red flag. Because everything else about this guy is spot on what I like. He’s hot, he’s the type of guy who looks you in the eye when he talks to you, he’s a gentleman, easy to talk to, funny, smart… blah blah blah… but I’m not going to let all of the things I like about him override the major thing that I don’t like, that would inevitably cause a problem in any type of relationship we had even if it was casual. So I put a stop to it before it even started. Which probably won’t keep me from drunkenly making out with him, but at least I’ve already told myself I won’t emotionally invest myself in liking this guy.
So that’s that… I made the big adult decision to not waste my time on a guy that I would probably end it with in 6 months because it reminded me too much of my relationship with Snoop-Linus. I’m still going to be his friend and hang out with him, but that’s it. And I know he won’t stop trying to get it to be more, he’s already asked me to dinner (that I declined) and posted on my facebook wall that he had fun (putting it on blast for the world, MWHAHA).
I just don’t know how I attract these druggies. Don’t get me wrong either, they aren’t like dirty scumlord meth heads. They are clean cut, cute, frat guy types and I just don’t know what this world is coming to. Like how hard could it be to meet a guy who is hot and doesn’t want to snort his paycheck up his nose in the city?