I figured out today that I am the Regina George of my friends (Lucky excluded because she’s special and also a doer), the Queen Bee, El Presidente, the leader. Why? Because I’m the only doer, and the rest of them are dummies.
Example 1: Betty and I are trying to plan this Florida trip that is happening in exactly 3 weeks and of course it’s drama. Now when I say Betty and I, I mean Betty, because remember I am a doer so my trip is already planned, booked, and paid for. She’s just dragging me into her unnecessary drama and I’m tired of it. We found out about our friend’s wedding 8 months ago, and knew that it was in Florida 8 months ago. Which automatically means you have to buy a flight and book a hotel. I bought a flight, booked a hotel, and rented a car already, literally all Betty has to do is book her own flight and that. is. it. But I’ve gotten numerous texts and calls from her about how the flights are too expensive and can I look them up for her to see if I can find her a cheaper one? Um no. No I cannot. Sorry I have a life and don’t care if you go to the wedding or not. On the sidelines Betty is also trying to back out of going to the wedding in general, which would mean less drama for me so I’m hoping that’s what she does. Then I can enjoy a relaxing weekend in Florida by myself, or if I can get the all clear from the Bride – invite Lucky along for a weekend of drinking and debauchery at the beach.
Example 2: A few months ago Gigi, Jules, and I came up with the bright idea to go to a baseball game in Gigi’s city. I found a weekend when the home team for her city was playing the team from The Big City, so we decided we should get tickets to that. Gigi volunteered to get the tickets a few weeks ago and has yet to do so because first she didn’t know what website to get them off of, so I directed her to stubhub. Then she had some big blow out with her landlord that left her crying for days. Etc, etc, etc. Inside it is hurting me to not just go online and get them myself because it would literally take 15 seconds, but like the above example I am learning the hard way (the hard way being me missing out on a fun drunken baseball game when she doesn’t do it) that I need to let loose on the reins and try to turn my friends into doers too before I kill them all for being lazy sloths.
So I’m not going to get the tickets, I’m not going to help Betty find a flight, or talk to her about the trip again for that mater. I’m going to sit back and let them figure it out on their own. I have examples for days just like this of events where I have had to do all the work because everyone else sucks. With that being said, I don’t know how they all get themselves dressed in the morning.